Marriages | Two Kinds Of Marriages. Which One Is Yours? – Article Dashboard

Posted on April 22, 2013 by

Here in America, we know that statistics say the divorce rate hovers around 50%. So, does that mean that half of married people are blissfully happy and the other half are getting divorced so they can go get a new partner and join the other half who are blissfully happy?

Nope! Not by a long shot.

Now, we don’t have a readily-available statistic that gives us the percentage of happily married versus unhappily married peopleso we’ll let our own personal experience speak for itself. Very few people you or I know are in a TRULY happy, affectionate, exciting, and sexual marriage relationship. You and I know very few people who have the kind of marriage that EVERY married person wants to have.

All it takes is just a few minutes to a couple of hours with a married couple and you can “SEE” that they are not happily married. Yes, they are marriedand MAYBE they are even polite, friendly, and civil with each otherbut clearly, there is no PASSION, ZEST, or LIFE to their relationship.

So, half of married people are divorcingwhile MOST of the rest are “settling”or they are “accepting”for a myriad of reasonswhile a FEW are actually enjoying a truly satisfying, fulfilling, exciting relationship with their spouse.

Ok, here’s what I think (based upon my observation of married American people with plenty of international marriages sprinkled in as well):

Only about 5% of the population chooses to create true relationship happiness.

Just like:

Only about 5% of the population chooses to live a life filled with purpose, meaning, and significance.
Only about 5% of the population chooses to create true financial wealth.
Only about 5% of the population chooses to create a fit, toned, trim, healthy body.
Only about 5% of the population chooses to create true mental and emotional soundness and wellbeing.
Only about 5% of the population chooses to truly honor their spiritual values and beliefs.

(Side Note: I dare say that when you try to put percentages on the population who are purposely making the best choices in EACH of these important life areasso that they have true success in every area of their life, I surmise the percentage is even smaller than 5%. But, for simplicity’s sake, well go with the 95 / 5 ratio.)

The other 95% ALL know that they should be making better choicesthey ALL know that what they are doing in these important areas of their life IS DIFFERENT from what they SHOULD be doingthey ALL know that what they are doing isn’t working very well for thembut they aren’t willing or disciplined enough to learn and change.

Consequently, I estimate that only about 5% of the population “GETS” to enjoy “the good life” while about 95% “GETS” to suffer through “the not-so-good life”.

Why do the unhappy 95% do thisespecially when ALL of them WANT to be like the happy 5%and especially, especially when it’s HARDER to be in the unhappy 95%?

More specifically, what about YOU? Since you have control over which group you are inwhy aren’t you in the happy 5% group instead of the unhappy 95% group?

Well, if we will all be honest with ourselves, it boils down to negative emotions of one kind or another and non-beneficial attitudes that we give into moment by momentand those moments turn into a lifetime!
It’s “easier”IN THE MOMENTto just be mad and angry at your spouse over something you wish was different between you and themand it’s “harder”IN THE MOMENTto decide to learn how to do things differentlyand to follow through on what you learnso that you and your spouse are positively inspired towards a happy, satisfying relationship.

The only problem is, after the moment is over with, it’s NOT easier. It’s actually HARDER ON YOU to continue living and operating day in

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